Tuesday, December 26, 2006

What Is Love?

There was this song that I probably heard on some casette a long time back. It was a song called "What Is Love?" by Haddaway and the only words I remember are:

What is love
Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more...

I don't really remember the rest of the song and probably this might seem like a very senti or emotional start towards a long, teary, "heartfelt" :) sermon.

As a writer, I myself read my pieces in third person as a detached entity and that entity is right now rolling his eyes at the words of the song. But again, I must be truthful enough to say that these lyrics keep coming to mind quite often as a tune that plays in your head sometimes and refuses to go away :)

What is love? Do any of us know? Do ALL of us know? Do any of us care? Do ALL of us care? Do we need it? Can we live without it? Why are there some conditional loves and yet some unconditional loves, all in this same world?

Distances make the heart grow fonder, it is said... I think whoever said it is quite true. Atleast in my case. Coming away from home has probably made me appreciate the people in my life to the best of my ability. It is not to say that I didn't love them. Probably, now it has taken the form of not taking their presence in my life for granted.

Probably, I now sit back and think: Have I treated them well? Have I given them happiness? Have I been what they might have wanted me to become? Have I managed to fulfill their dreams and ambitions that they wanted to live through me? (whether that's good or bad, let's leave that debate for another day...)

Various circumstances and events have made me very paranoid... I get up each morning hoping that the day goes well and I go bed at night with a silent prayer thanking the Lord for the day having gone well... Why do I feel anxiety? sorrow? emotions???

I look back on a lot of times when I could have shown it, but I didn't. I expected them to understand, and probably they did too.

Is love a simple concept or a complicated manifestation? Is it pure or selfish? Is it need-based or respect-based? Is it all of us experience in our lives or just a chosen few?

And amidst all these questions, I look back at the unconditional and pure love I have received. From those around me, who didn't need to do it. From those who never would get anything in return from me. From those, who were and are my "farishtas"... I have received more than any man has a right to expect...

And at the end of it all, I ask myself: "Was It Love?" :)


shweta said...

nice blog..really heartfelt .. "what is love" i cant really answer that question..coz all i can think of is "complicated" :)

Anshul Agrawal said...

nicely written post...

even i don't understand "what is love " ???

Ankur said...

Its really difficult to get a universally true/applicable definition of love...
For some, love can be giving yourself to another.
For some, it might be pride n possession.
I always believe, whatever you feel, love is, its actually what it is.
But the basis of any love relationship always has to be 'respect'.
Otherwise, how would you call incidents of lovers throwing acids/harming their partners, as love?